Monday, September 6, 2010
♥ the lonely wife
i wonder what it'd be like to be married to a busy man.
the kind of man that works long hours... starting early.. finishing late.. comes home and is too tired to head out anywhere or do anything... maybe even too tired to have a chat.
i wonder if it'd be easier if you were a busy woman too.
a busy man married to a busy woman. there would be less time demands. because both would be busy... both would understand. both would know what each other is going through. and both wouldn't have time to feel lonely. both would feel too tired to head out or chat - rather than having different wants.
and then when you have kids, i guess the woman would have to take time off. would spend most of their time at home... maybe feeling lonely because she's missing the buzz of being busy at work.
lets hope things don't go that way hey.
the kind of man that works long hours... starting early.. finishing late.. comes home and is too tired to head out anywhere or do anything... maybe even too tired to have a chat.
i wonder if it'd be easier if you were a busy woman too.
a busy man married to a busy woman. there would be less time demands. because both would be busy... both would understand. both would know what each other is going through. and both wouldn't have time to feel lonely. both would feel too tired to head out or chat - rather than having different wants.
and then when you have kids, i guess the woman would have to take time off. would spend most of their time at home... maybe feeling lonely because she's missing the buzz of being busy at work.
but she's not completely alone i guess... she will have a bub to cook and clean and take care of...
but then all the focus and attention for both the woman and man will be on the baby... what happens to the relationship between the man and the woman?
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| these comic things are kinda cute, sad but cute. |
lets hope things don't go that way hey.
3:11 PM
Thursday, November 5, 2009
♥ God loves his daughters
THREE down, two to go...
hbio was okay.. could have been better. i don't think i did as well as i needed to do... but it was alright.
chemistry is tomorrow. and to be honest that is the most feared one *burn burn burn*
anyways. dropped by the chinese shop today and picked up some study snacks :)
i think it was ry or her mum who showed me you could get seaweed crackers from the chinese shop.. LOVE. i first tried them when miyako's mum sent us some from japan!!!
hawflakes. always been a fav since childhood.
anyways. nathan from sma gave me two books today. i exchanged it for my Dreaming With God book (which i still haven't finished reading, but plan on borrowing from someone from church *cough* so i can these holidays...) so he could read it.
these are the two books he gave me.
and well, you see.. during sma we (or should i say i) got into a heated debate on the topic of women. women's role in the church. women's role in a marriage...
and not to say i'm a feminist (even though some people think so) but i really disagreed with much of what he had to say. after discussing such issues with my pastor and some of the female leaders in my church who gave me a better understanding of the context and their intepretations of the passages... i so totally agree with them, and not nathan, and i still stand by my view of women's roles in both the church and in a marriage...
but you know. i must be more... open. you see when i first heard all these things that nathan was saying, it got me really angry. like how can people STILL think like that in today's society?! women have rights too! God loves females as much as He loves males!
But yes. Even though i think i'm right, it needs to be assessed on a more objective level. And i must not be so one sided or else everything i look at will support my hypothesis - confirmation bias.
anyways. first impressions of this book. i'm a bit iffy about them. just by the TITLES and the COVER. but yes. must not judge a book by it's cover. and will get into them once exams are over. and attempt to look at it objectively.
anyways. here are the major points that nathan and bev brought up from their intepretation of the passages... which i disagree with and will examine in context with the help of my pastor, leaders and of course, God.
* note: the following statements might get you angry. because they got me angry. but yes... i will be coming back at a later date (after some epic research and lotsa prayer) to shed some light on what i think is actually the right intepretation.. because i really don't think they've got it right =/ *
- women should not have authority over men in the church. includes pastoring, leadership etc.
- women are more succeptible to sin
- women are the spiritually weaker partner in a relationship
- some people are pre-destined to hell
- you can't change God's will
- the theory of Kelvinism
- that verse that talks about "submission"
okay, that's it for now.
it's time for home and away... :)
6:59 PM
Saturday, October 24, 2009
♥ windy pathways
is the naive the word i'm looking for?
i was studying social pscyhology the other day and it talked about how first impressions usually last, because if they're bad then we don't usually associate with that person anymore and also avoid the people around them.
lasting impressions. usually with someone we know well, when they say something or do something you don't like, you often let it go, because you believe you know them well enough that maybe they're just having a bad day or whatever.
but i guess people change. or rather, we continously get to know them more, and maybe it was more than just a bad day, but it's really what they think or who they are.
and maybe thats still okay. i think friendship is flexible like that. everyone changes after all.
but when it comes to relationships i think its different.
my husband and i will become one. we will share the rest of our life together.
he would need to be one who respects me, cares about, loves me and wants to be with me.
he will need to share the same values and beliefs as me...
maybe not always the same attitudes...
david asked me the other day if i thought josh was "the one".. *DADDADUMM*
and without hesitation i said yes.
technically i'm still a teenager. a teenagers naivity maybe?
i don't think a husband will treat his wife like he would have treated her when she was his girlfriend.
i'm starting to see and learn about the views josh has about marriage. and to be honest, i'm not sure if i entirely agree as such.
i'm starting to question what kind of husband he will be. and i'm not crazy. at least i think so.
but i think for now i should stop being so sure about things. so straight pathed about things. so simple minded. so naive.
kinda like medicine i rekon. i was so sure. and i thought i knew how to go about it. but the path isn't straight. its actually taken quite a few bends...
and i still don't know yet if i'd end up where i thought i would.
Labels: boyfriend, friends, future, marriage, medicine, naive, psyc, relationships
10:20 AM
Sunday, October 11, 2009
♥ my sunday
disclaimer / warning: super longggg blog entry.
i kinda hoped after two days i would stop crying about it, but when i bumped into pastor at church and he asked me if i was going back to tbc ministry and also where i've been lately, and i told him how i was in ballarat and came back sick... and then i told him i didn't get into med and yes.
grace joined in after. and gave me a hug. which was good, because pastors aren't for hugging. because that's just... awkward.
Pastor told me that if i honor the things of God, that He will honor me. that's been stuck in my mind all day.
he also told me that in the future i will look back and see how things worked out and stuff
i don't know. i guess i'm a bit confused.
grace said it was okay to be angry with God. but i'm not angry (well, yet) i'm more disappointed and confused.
you see, my boyfriend, his mother, my exbf, all sorta asked if i was going to change my goals/course. josh said something like seeking what God wants in my life, if it's something other than med. but I've always believed that IS what He wants. and what I want too! And why i'm going the long way about it, I do not know why. But there's a reason i guess, i just don't know what it is.
people like my parents, my sister, jfu... were different. they already know how much i want it. and talked abt next year, or postgrad etc. they didn't question whether i was giving up because they didn't believe i would.
don't get me wrong, i still need to seek God about my future. like pastor told me, i need to rest in Him. i need to listen.
i'm continously reminded of this section in Dreaming With God (yes mic, i did read some of it!) where ... hmm, its prob best if i directly quote.
The Blank Check
As kids, many of us dreamed about being granted one wish. Solomon got the "one wish." When God appeared to Solomon and gave him that opportunity, it forever raised the bar of our expectations in prayer. The disciples were given the same "wish," only better. Instead of one blank check, they were given an unlimited supply of blank checks. And this gift was specifically granted in the context of their friendship with God.
Surrounding their promotion to friendship, Jesus gave His disciples this amazing list of promises. Each promise was a blank check they were to live by and use throughout their lives for the expansion of the Kingdom. They are as follows:
If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you (John 15 vs 7)
You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, that whatever you ask the Father in My name He may give you (John 15 vs 16)
If you ask anything in My name, I will do it (John 14 vs 14)
And in that day you will ask Me nothing. Most assuredly, I say to you, whatever you ask the Father in My name He will give you. Until now you have asked nothing in My name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full (John 16 vs 23-24)
For us to properly receive what Jesus has offered us in these verses, any robotic understanding of what it means to be a follower of God has to change. God never intended that the believer be a puppet on a string. God actually makes Himself vulnerable to the desires of His people. In fact, it can be said, "if it matters to you, it matters to Him"
While much of the Church is waiting for the next word from God, He is waiting to hear the dream of His people. He longs for us to take our role, not because He needs us, but beause He loves us.
i've always been the kinda girl who has her whole life planned out. Married at 25. First kid at 28. And hopefully another two after that, in 3 year intervals (haha, i know, i'm a freak). At the way things are looking, i won't even be graduated when i'm 25. i remember telling my lifegroup once, how it was so difficult for me, when i first found out that i didn't get into med the first time. how things weren't going the way i had planned. how much of a struggle it was to adjust and get use to the fact that things don't always go how u hoped / planned.
thats why when pastor was talking about how you can seek God for the answers for everything, except when ur asked how many kids they want, you can straight out tell you. it made me laugh, and reminds me so much of myself.
Oh yeah, i held lil zeke today! 2nd time EVER because everyone always steals him =[ and he didn't cry! ZMGSH first time he hasn't when i've held him =P. too bad i had to go cauz nat was taking me back =[ but arghhhhhh!!!!!!!! ♡♡♡ BABIESSS
On other news, i went to my bf's hse for lunch. and sigh, idk, i'm feeling more and more uncomfortable around his family. like sometimes his mum doesn't think i understand what she's saying when she speaks chinese =[ but i do get bits of it, or at least the gist of it.
so like she kept asking me try to chilli and i kept saying that i was fine. she knows i can't take chilli. and she was like 'it's not hot blahblah'... and then i think josh told her to stop asking or something (in chinese) and she was like saying back to him (in chinese) something like ~ what? so she's not going to eat it for the rest of her life?.................
and then she found out i couldn't swim and told me to go join adult vacswim classes (like actually told me in english!) .........................
she even told josh (in chinese) i eat like a kid because my plate was so 'far away' from me.................
she makes me feel really stupid.
maybe she's trying to joke half the time, but okay, i get it, i suck, and ur son is awesome, because i can't speak chinese, eat chilli / hot stuff, play an instrument / piano, can't swim, and i can't get into med... and he can do all those things and more.... -.-"
sigh, i am tryingggggggggggg to give her a break. josh always tells me to not let me preconcieved ideas affect how i see her. but you know, its pretty difficult... i don't really agree with a lot of her ideas on education and stuff. but yeah i don't say anything, of course. but i fear conflict when we get married and have kids.
it's okay. mother in laws are meant to be difficult right? but she's not even my mother in law yet!
ahh, the difficulties of dating the first born son of an asian family. i think i shall just avoid his parents for a while. because tbh, it just makes me feel inadequate and fustrated =[
Went for familyy dinner tonight. Peking duck (yum!) + Fried squid tenticles + Seafood Ho Fun with Egg Sauce.
I think my sister is feeling slightly guilty because this morning she found out i broke the glass cup in the bathroom and told me how she wouldn't trust me with her things let alone someone's life as a doctor. And i was like "well it doesn't matter because i didn't get in anyways" and she was something like "yeah but you break everything" and i was like "well i've still got a while to learn to be more careful" then 5 minutes later she was like "oh did you mean you didn't get in for next year?!" and i was like "yeahhh". ahaha, so in the car she was talking to me about it and at dinner she said she wants to take me to some new tea place she found to 'cheer me up'.
I forgot to take my breakfast this morning. Yes, my mum makes me breakfast (even on sundays) and leaves them in the oven. Must be more aware and remember to take it, because she puts in the effort every morning =[. sometimes i don't even eat the lunch she makes =[, and she wakes up early to make it. sigh. i'm so bad.
i love my family.
i love my friends.
i love my boyfriend.
i love God!
Labels: boyfriend, breakfast, family, future, God, life, marriage, medicine, parents, sister, sunday sermon
11:03 PM
Saturday, May 2, 2009
♥ b g r
yesterday was the bgr session at church.
it was good. got many questions answered. but i guess some of the answers were not what i wanted to hear, but it was what i needed to hear.
man i realized i am somewhat naive!
i think one of the things that struct me the most was that sexual purity does not only equal virginity. i began to understand this thing about this slide... and it scared me that i was already on that slide and going down it. hmmm... sexual immorality... it isnt just sex.
sexual gratification by ur husband in the context of marriage.
i dont know how many times grace repeated that. haha. but it stuck. and made me think.
so as we striveeee towards sexual purity. we need to set our boundaries higher. we've realized that the boundaries we did set, were too low.
i think an important thing i picked up was "dancing around our boundaries" its not so much setting the boundaries and sticking to them, but that we always find ways to "dance" around them. to find other ways to muck around. and i think that applied so directly to us. so rather than just setting boundaries, we both need to work on striving for sexual purity, rather than just "followin the rules"
One part of the session used the analogy of pieces of sticky paper. as you begin a relationship, your piece of paper begins to stick onto the other piece of paper. the more your together, the harder it is to pull away - and also you might leave tears, you might have a piece of that other piece of paper stuck on you, you might not be as sticky anymore. I like this analogy. I think if i truely understood it when i was so much younger... I would have avoided much heartbreak. I think also, that i understand how much someone's past can effect you. How important it is to keep yourself, for your husband. It is so hard for your partner to understand and let go of your past, when u've given a part of urself to someone else. Thats not to say that it wouldn't work out - but its much more unnecessary strain on ur relationship.
This brings me back to a post i wrote a while ago. about a friend who had this perception of having agesssssss until they wanted to get married, and they just wanted to date for fun. I remember telling him that the pain wasn't worth it. That there was simply no point. Even though you think you can handle it - and that it won't effect you, you don't know how much it'd effect someone else. I think if i talked to him again about this topic... i would bring up this analogy. I'd ask him to think about his future spouse. How she would handle it, and the strain it'd have on their relationship. And when it comes to the "tears" and the "unstickyness" and the "having a piece of the other paper stuck to you".... i dont think it just refers to the physically aspect "e.g. you lost your first kisss... or you lose your virginity"... but i guess there's just as much emotional aspects to it too. I wish i had learnt this at a younger age... but i think even if someone told me, I wouldn't have listened much, because i was young. i guess i still am, and i have lots to learn.
The wait. I think this was another thing that caught my mind. The wait.... how difficult it would be. how much we would struggle. The test of time. It never occured to me how difficult it would be. again, naive much? but you know, i believe it's going to be okay. that it will be hard, but we're going to get there. i guess im just saying that, i actually realize the difficultness that will present itself after a few years. but i dont believe that we can't get through it.
God, we want our relationship to be good in Your eyes... We want it to be pure. We want to honour You in and through our relationship. We want people to see us together, and see the love you have for us. To see the love that you gave us, that we may love each other. Teach us to discern what is from you, and what is from the world. God, you are the center of our relationship, and i pray that as we grow closer to one another, we also grow closer to you, like a triangle, a three way relationship, where the closer each edge gets to each other, the smaller the triangle gets, bringing all edges closer together. Help us be strong God...mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. God, continue to reveal to us your planss... show us that we're on the right track, and warn us when we're not. Teach us to be patient. to be wise. to be pure. In Jesus name, Amen.
it was good. got many questions answered. but i guess some of the answers were not what i wanted to hear, but it was what i needed to hear.
man i realized i am somewhat naive!
i think one of the things that struct me the most was that sexual purity does not only equal virginity. i began to understand this thing about this slide... and it scared me that i was already on that slide and going down it. hmmm... sexual immorality... it isnt just sex.
sexual gratification by ur husband in the context of marriage.
i dont know how many times grace repeated that. haha. but it stuck. and made me think.
so as we striveeee towards sexual purity. we need to set our boundaries higher. we've realized that the boundaries we did set, were too low.
i think an important thing i picked up was "dancing around our boundaries" its not so much setting the boundaries and sticking to them, but that we always find ways to "dance" around them. to find other ways to muck around. and i think that applied so directly to us. so rather than just setting boundaries, we both need to work on striving for sexual purity, rather than just "followin the rules"
One part of the session used the analogy of pieces of sticky paper. as you begin a relationship, your piece of paper begins to stick onto the other piece of paper. the more your together, the harder it is to pull away - and also you might leave tears, you might have a piece of that other piece of paper stuck on you, you might not be as sticky anymore. I like this analogy. I think if i truely understood it when i was so much younger... I would have avoided much heartbreak. I think also, that i understand how much someone's past can effect you. How important it is to keep yourself, for your husband. It is so hard for your partner to understand and let go of your past, when u've given a part of urself to someone else. Thats not to say that it wouldn't work out - but its much more unnecessary strain on ur relationship.
This brings me back to a post i wrote a while ago. about a friend who had this perception of having agesssssss until they wanted to get married, and they just wanted to date for fun. I remember telling him that the pain wasn't worth it. That there was simply no point. Even though you think you can handle it - and that it won't effect you, you don't know how much it'd effect someone else. I think if i talked to him again about this topic... i would bring up this analogy. I'd ask him to think about his future spouse. How she would handle it, and the strain it'd have on their relationship. And when it comes to the "tears" and the "unstickyness" and the "having a piece of the other paper stuck to you".... i dont think it just refers to the physically aspect "e.g. you lost your first kisss... or you lose your virginity"... but i guess there's just as much emotional aspects to it too. I wish i had learnt this at a younger age... but i think even if someone told me, I wouldn't have listened much, because i was young. i guess i still am, and i have lots to learn.
The wait. I think this was another thing that caught my mind. The wait.... how difficult it would be. how much we would struggle. The test of time. It never occured to me how difficult it would be. again, naive much? but you know, i believe it's going to be okay. that it will be hard, but we're going to get there. i guess im just saying that, i actually realize the difficultness that will present itself after a few years. but i dont believe that we can't get through it.
God, we want our relationship to be good in Your eyes... We want it to be pure. We want to honour You in and through our relationship. We want people to see us together, and see the love you have for us. To see the love that you gave us, that we may love each other. Teach us to discern what is from you, and what is from the world. God, you are the center of our relationship, and i pray that as we grow closer to one another, we also grow closer to you, like a triangle, a three way relationship, where the closer each edge gets to each other, the smaller the triangle gets, bringing all edges closer together. Help us be strong God...mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. God, continue to reveal to us your planss... show us that we're on the right track, and warn us when we're not. Teach us to be patient. to be wise. to be pure. In Jesus name, Amen.
Labels: bgr, boyfriend, church, future, God, life, marriage, prayer, relationships, sex
10:44 AM
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
♥ marriage before graduation?!
so when i look at my life.
i would see it as... (in order)
primary school. high school. university. work. marriage. kids
if u didn't already realize. im one of those people who have a pretty good idea of where they want to be and when. haha. crazy i know~! i remember. i had everything planned out! married at 25, first kid at 28... ahh im a freak aren't i? (a dreamer? an idealist?) things don't always go that way. and i'm getting adjusted to the change ( or maybe so the realisation that things don't always go the way u want it to go ) , becoming more flexible maybe. haha
haha. O__O so the other day i heard about this couple who got married before they graduated
and yes i've heard of couples who have done so before. but i guess it never really appealed to me. or really, i never understood why they did.
but i ended up gaining a better "understanding" i guess. especially because it was a med couple who married before their graduated. and they had several valid reasons - that really made me think that it isnt such a bad idea after all.
so anyways. i brought it up with mum today in the car. because i wanted to see what she thought. (and if she would fund my wedding for me, if i did - because of course, i would have no money) and surprisingly i managed to somewhat convince her it was actually a decent and sensible idea. or maybe she just agreed because she thinks im being silly, thinking about marriage xD. which i am. but i just wanted to ask her. hehe. and she actually said, that because i'm the youngest i would probably get the most "help". but i did remind her, that despite being the youngest - it didn't mean i would be married last (because at the rate my sisters going... =/...) but anyways. my mum loves me more. (jokes!)
anyways. upon realising all of this. it came to me how stressful the next few years are going to be for me - certainly a big chunk of my life will be spent "studying"... or well, at uni. ( ahh goodbye social life =(...! )
umat is certainly coming up. and it will be my last chance to get into the undergrad program. since they're stopping undergrad med in 2010. and if not, post grad will be my last shot.
i'm going to get there right...? eventually...? of course! =) with God on my side? anythings possible.
i would see it as... (in order)
primary school. high school. university. work. marriage. kids
if u didn't already realize. im one of those people who have a pretty good idea of where they want to be and when. haha. crazy i know~! i remember. i had everything planned out! married at 25, first kid at 28... ahh im a freak aren't i? (a dreamer? an idealist?) things don't always go that way. and i'm getting adjusted to the change ( or maybe so the realisation that things don't always go the way u want it to go ) , becoming more flexible maybe. haha
haha. O__O so the other day i heard about this couple who got married before they graduated
and yes i've heard of couples who have done so before. but i guess it never really appealed to me. or really, i never understood why they did.
but i ended up gaining a better "understanding" i guess. especially because it was a med couple who married before their graduated. and they had several valid reasons - that really made me think that it isnt such a bad idea after all.
so anyways. i brought it up with mum today in the car. because i wanted to see what she thought. (and if she would fund my wedding for me, if i did - because of course, i would have no money) and surprisingly i managed to somewhat convince her it was actually a decent and sensible idea. or maybe she just agreed because she thinks im being silly, thinking about marriage xD. which i am. but i just wanted to ask her. hehe. and she actually said, that because i'm the youngest i would probably get the most "help". but i did remind her, that despite being the youngest - it didn't mean i would be married last (because at the rate my sisters going... =/...) but anyways. my mum loves me more. (jokes!)
anyways. upon realising all of this. it came to me how stressful the next few years are going to be for me - certainly a big chunk of my life will be spent "studying"... or well, at uni. ( ahh goodbye social life =(...! )
umat is certainly coming up. and it will be my last chance to get into the undergrad program. since they're stopping undergrad med in 2010. and if not, post grad will be my last shot.
i'm going to get there right...? eventually...? of course! =) with God on my side? anythings possible.
7:45 PM
Thursday, March 26, 2009
♥ anth assignment & sex before marriage
So my anthropology assignment is due in less than 20 hours . . .
I'm currently eating rice (with sauce - man rice with that sauce thing - not soyasauce but the sauce u get when buying cooked meat from asian places) cucumber and duck (<3>
I just finished working 5:30 - 9pm. And i basically spent most of the day out of the house.
I guess u could say i was feeling pretty cruddy in the mid afternoon today.
My assignment wasn't close to being completed. My boyfriend was disappointed in me. The worry and stress was starting to build up. I started to realize that if it's med that I'm aiming for - I'm definately not acting like it.
I'm really blessed to have a boyfriend who looks out for me. Even though I get annoyed at him at times... maybe because he sometimes acts like my parents - on my back about this and that. But i know its because he cares. genuinely cares for me. He helps me. Worries for me. Looks out for me. Thinks for me. But most of all, he prays for me... especially because i dont like to ask to be prayed for... i dont like to trouble people i guess.
other than that.. this is whats on my mind. and i must blog abt it before i start my assignment.
a friend of mine... "friend"... more like class mate... she use to go to my school. she had her ultrasound pictures up on facebook. she was 3 months in! its a boy. yeah, she's 17yo, but i admire her for keeping the baby. it makes me happy to know she kept it. well she was happy in a relationship with her bf (father of the baby)... until today =/ she changed her relationship status to single and had this massive 'bitch' in her status =/.
It made me sad to know, that she may be bringing up this child without the father. But i guess u could say it made me think... think about relationships. kids. sex before marriage.
I find it really good how i can talk openly to my boyfriend about these things. How we share the same values, morals and beliefs. How we value and respect each other, and each other's bodies. How we seek deeper meaning in a relationship, rather than just the physical aspect.
I really hope that "friend" works things out. That she has a safe pregnancy. That the father of her son, will be there to support her - and not just financially, but physically, mentally and emotionally.
I thank God that I'm blessed with a boyfriend who supports me... looks out for me... cares for me... shares with me... worries for me... helps me... respects me... values me.
I couldn't ask for anything more!
I'm currently eating rice (with sauce - man rice with that sauce thing - not soyasauce but the sauce u get when buying cooked meat from asian places) cucumber and duck (<3>
I just finished working 5:30 - 9pm. And i basically spent most of the day out of the house.
I guess u could say i was feeling pretty cruddy in the mid afternoon today.
My assignment wasn't close to being completed. My boyfriend was disappointed in me. The worry and stress was starting to build up. I started to realize that if it's med that I'm aiming for - I'm definately not acting like it.
I'm really blessed to have a boyfriend who looks out for me. Even though I get annoyed at him at times... maybe because he sometimes acts like my parents - on my back about this and that. But i know its because he cares. genuinely cares for me. He helps me. Worries for me. Looks out for me. Thinks for me. But most of all, he prays for me... especially because i dont like to ask to be prayed for... i dont like to trouble people i guess.
other than that.. this is whats on my mind. and i must blog abt it before i start my assignment.
a friend of mine... "friend"... more like class mate... she use to go to my school. she had her ultrasound pictures up on facebook. she was 3 months in! its a boy. yeah, she's 17yo, but i admire her for keeping the baby. it makes me happy to know she kept it. well she was happy in a relationship with her bf (father of the baby)... until today =/ she changed her relationship status to single and had this massive 'bitch' in her status =/.
It made me sad to know, that she may be bringing up this child without the father. But i guess u could say it made me think... think about relationships. kids. sex before marriage.
I find it really good how i can talk openly to my boyfriend about these things. How we share the same values, morals and beliefs. How we value and respect each other, and each other's bodies. How we seek deeper meaning in a relationship, rather than just the physical aspect.
I really hope that "friend" works things out. That she has a safe pregnancy. That the father of her son, will be there to support her - and not just financially, but physically, mentally and emotionally.
I thank God that I'm blessed with a boyfriend who supports me... looks out for me... cares for me... shares with me... worries for me... helps me... respects me... values me.
I couldn't ask for anything more!
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