Monday, July 19, 2010
♥ movie + kfc + shops + beach + BF = a lovely day
i had a lovely day with the boyfriend today. literally took off the whole day from doing umat (AHHH it was SO good!) but going to stay up and do some tonight (i can't escape!)
well my day started off with dropping mum at work so i could take the car. then i went to koorong to pick up the books for the bookstore stand we're going to have at mission conference.
then i went to pick up josh and we went to watch KNIGHT & DAY!
yeahh it was pretty good, good mix of action and humor and stuff hehe.
then we dropped back to his place so he could eat his lunch that his mum cooked
then we went to karrinyup kfc and ate more food. dude kfc lunch value picks things are goooood, or at least the chicken is good haha. yeah it was good because i've been kinda craving kfc but when i worked last wednesday i couldn't be bothered walking all the way there...... so opted for the foodcourt.
after lunch we went to the shops and did a walk away, dropped by my old workplace to say hi. karrinyup's changed quite a bit, i haven't been there in like six months which is probably why.. but yeah, bought a pair of jeans from french connection and went back to work to get them altered xD. sat down and had ice chocolates and had a nice chat.
then picked up my jeans, and headed to the beach. i was in boots and stockings and josh was in jeans but OH WELL. the sun was so nice, i couldn't resist sitting in the sand on the beach. josh was a bit grumpy about it at first. soooooooo unromantic (josh: DO WE HAVE TO WALK ON THE SAND??? CAN'T WE SIT ON THE GRASS INSTEAD??????) sigh!
took some photos, we haven't really taken many the last times we've been out. but we should! memory catching. but i guess we've just got SO many from the first few months we were dating (my fault HEHE)
i probably won't get to see him so much when uni starts, esp with his course becoming more intense i guess. and that's just going to be more increasingly difficult as years go by... soooo i gotta make the most of it now :)
11:46 PM
Monday, March 1, 2010
♥ sugarcoating & honesty
sugarcoating.
talking to david today, and sharing with him what happened to me last week, made me think about a few things...
do you prefer a sugarcoated reality, or the truth?
take a moment to just think about what kind of friends you have.
are they the ones who would stop you and make you rethink making a decision that they see as bad?
or would they just have this feeling that its a bad decision, but are too scared to approach you about it.
it kinda makes me think about the movie 'valentines day'.
the boy has this proposal all planned out, and finally one morning (which just happened to be valentines day) proposes to his girlfriend. he rocks up to work so happy, so excited, so ready to tell all his workmates and friends the good news. and they're all surprised that she said yes. they really weren't expecting it.
later in the movie, he drops by home to leave her a box with the most beautiful flower on the bed as a surprise... only to see her still at home, and not at work... with suitcases half filled with her clothes. she's not ready for commitment. and they break up that day.
the thing is, as the movie progresses, he finds out that his closest friends were expecting that. his best friend didn't think she was the right girl for him. yet none of these friends told him. none of his friends was honest with their opinion. and he ended up getting his heart broken.
so a part of me just thinks to myself... how important good friends are.
you know. good friends. not just the nice friends, that hug you and pat you on the back, and make you feel good about yourself... but the ones who are honest with you. the ones who go beyond niceness, but rather, help you to see things you may not see, or pull you out of trouble.
but then i wonder... if his best friend had told him what she thought about their relationship... would he have listened? it would hurt a lot wouldn't it? would he stop and think before proposing. or make excuses like 'ohhh she just doesn't want me to be with her because she's scared of losing me as a friend" and not stop to think tof maybe the other reasons why she doesn't.
you know, friends are there to support you through anything right? but i don't think that should mean not confronting.
if my best mate was about to make a decision that i thought was a bad one. i wouldn't be okay with just letting him do so. i would confront him about it. talk to him about it. tell him why i see things this way. and question his way of seeing the situation. i wouldn't just let him make a decision that i percieved as a mistake. and there is no doubt that at times i will be wrong and he will be right. but at least he ends up thinking more about it.
and you know, its that kinda honestly that differs being good to being nice.
but if he chooses to ignore my advice and make his decision. thats fine. i may not support his decision. but i will still support him as a friend, and i will still be there for him every step of the way, if he falls, and if he doesn't.
i guess this doesn't apply to everyone. i've realized people percieve friends differently. josh and chris require a certain level of constant and consistent contact to be deemed as friends... where as i, if the relationship is already established, as long as i feel like i can approach them and tell them my problems, then they're still my friends.
people will have different definitions for a good friend. but mine goes along the lines of... if i were about to make a bad decision. and they saw it. and they felt that it was bad. they'd say something. they'd tell me. or even if it was just something i asked them. they would be honest. they would tell me the truth.
and you know. sometimes hearing the truth hurts. and sometimes its not as appreciated as nice-ness is. which is why many just prefer to be nice.
my boyfriend stopped putting effort into seeing each other during the first few days of uni. i understood that he was busy and had work to do, and that was cool. because i value education too. and i want him to study.
but when we did get the opportunity to meet up, we weren't really meeting up. timmie thinks it was a miscommunication issue. josh thinks it was a misinterpretation issue.
it sounds pretty silly. but basically when he said that he'd meet me at 2, i wasn't expecting to spend the next hour sitting next to him in the library while he did his assignment, then following him and his friends to print stuff. i totally understand if he has work to do, but in a sense i just wish he had told me he did, so i could have done other things like meet up with other people etc. i guess i just wasn't expecting what i ended up getting.
we sorta got in a mini fight, and looking back it sounds pretty stupid (geez, teeeeeeeenagers) but i asked him if he just felt he had to see me to make me happy. i asked him why it seemed like he wasn't putting any effort in. i asked him if he even looks forward to seeing me like he use to.
and you know. the truth hurts. and at that time, i was soo upset. so annoyed. so angry.
but he was honest. and i appreciate that. i appreciate that he had the guts to tell me the truth and not sugarcoat it.
so when i was talking to david today, he got quite annoyed that josh would say such things. he said something along the lines of like, if a pregnant women asks you if she's fat, do you say yes?
haha. and you know i found myself defending josh. no matter how hurt i had felt that day, he was being honest. he was being truthful. and from there, at least we could work on things, we could work on our relationship.
otherwise, i would never know the truth. and eventually, i think it would wear a relationship down. when you keep that sorta stuff to yourself. at least we can look at us, and go... okay, we're like this. what happened? how do we fix it? how do we work through this together?
and you know. if i think about it, over the past year, my boyfriend has been the one to ask the questions no one else is brave enough to ask.
for example. i don't get into med. second year in a row now. im devo. everyone tells me that it's okay. that there's always next year. he's the only one who asks me if i'm still sure that it's what i want, if it's right for me.
sure, sometimes he has horrific timing, and it doens't always come across nicely... and a majority of the time i don't take it too well.
but like the guy in Valentine's Day... who's best friend didn't tell him what she thought about the proposal...
i don't want to have to look him in the eye and ask him whyy he didn't tell me what he thought when i still could have done something about it.
the honesty hurts. but i think i'm learning to appreciate it more.
Labels: boyfriend, friends, honesty, movies, relationships
12:04 AM
Saturday, January 23, 2010
♥ a date
well today i had a date with the boyfriend :)
he picked me up from work and then came back to my place. i had a shower, then we left to BURSWOOD!
walking past the parks in burswood
we had dinner at carvers, and walked past all the fancy casino stuff on the way haha.
the pork was good! and i really liked the soup they had today. too bad the chocolate icecream machine wasn't working :(
josh, very happy that i was taking a photo of him while eating, as you can see
after that we headed to the outdoor cinema to watch the time travellers wife...
it was kindaa rushed because i knew it would be packedd, so yeah got there just after 7:30 and it was yes. packed haha. i think i overheard the lady at the counter say there was like 400 people.
we eventually found a spot to the side where we placed a rug and opened up my sleeping bag to use as a blanket.
and yes it was nice, even though my boyfriend fell asleep for more than half the movie ahaha. and by fall asleep, i mean seriously fall asleep! lol. poor boyy, he was so tired.
back at my place and still sleepy, squishing mr gollywog
and then we came back to my place, and he tried on the two shirts and pair of shorts i got him, and they fit perfectly, so i'm quite happy about that. but i should have probably given that to him before we went to burswood (because he was in his work uniform the whole night lol, and it was so hot... nawws)
Joshh :
*thank you for the tshirts
*and shorts
*i like them :)
*and i know you put in effort to get them
*and i'm not taking you for granted
*:(
- ♡ ditz. :
*lol
Joshh :
*and i love you
*not because you do these things for me
*but i got that feeling
*that i've missed in so long
and you have no idea how happy that makes mee..
the fact that we've been so up and down, but it's cruising quite nicely at the moment :) things are back on track.
life is good
xoxo
11:57 PM
Saturday, October 10, 2009
♥ my walk / sma 1st yr dinner
yesterday i walked home from work..
it was around a 40 minute walk. i was a bit unhappy about it at first, parents were at a festival (which they didnt tell me abt til that day. and sister was out). but i lightened up after i took some time out to just look around at my surroundings and absorb the sunshine and air.
well... that definately was my 30 minutes of exercise for the day... or should i say week.... or even month.
just came back from sma first year dinner, it was really casual and laid back, and we just watched a movie and ate. and even though there weren't many of us, i liked it :) the movie was pretty good too. cept josh kept telling me off for asking questions / saying stuff - oh dear, thats what i do to my mother - tell her off. like mother like daughter eh. he better get use to it =P
Labels: boyfriend, movies, reddot, sma, walks, weather, work
11:41 PM
Monday, October 5, 2009
♥ more shopping!
today i went to watch 500 days of summer. unforunately my boyfriend fell asleep through it. it was okay, not really what i was expecting... and uber corney ending. ahaha. and now i feel bad for dragging the bf along to it, sorry bub!
well i went shopping after. i was only meant to get my boots, but there was a get a second pair of shoes for 50% deal.... and i couldn't find anything so i wasn't going to bother getting a second pair, until i asked the lady if those shoes 'over there' were included. and surprisingly she said yes, i thought the whole brand of them were excluded from the sale, but it seemed it was only a certain collection of them.
ended up getting theseee...
and yes, they're not what i usually get, so it should require some getting use to.
i already have a pair from this brand... these oness...
but that flower thing digs into my foot and it hurts =[
anyways. the boots i got, i've had my eye on for a while, and was totally heartbroken when i found they had sold out at the mirrabooka store. then found a pair in harbor town, but with no size.. then found a pair at the city store in a size 9 and got uber excited =]
they're actually really high boots though, not high in the heel but high as in.. high up to the knee. i dont think i really noticed when i tried it on at the shop because of my jeanss sorta pushed it down.. but when i tried it again at home i'm like hmmmmm......
anyways, bought a new pair of stockings from myer since i ripped a hole in my other ones.
ohoh and i was walking through carillion when i saw a new shop!
it's called factorie.. and it's actually pretty cheap. i ended up getting some simple long sleeve shirts (which i've been looking for, for a while now)
but i was slightly disappointed when i asked the lady what stores it was affiliated with and she said cotton on. and yes, my experience with cotton on quality is meh.
but it didn't seem too bad, like the quality of the shirts i got. i think it's a more urban (or maybe even surfy/skatey) style shop and i'm hoping they don't make their clothes from the same materials/factory (but the shirt says made in Bangladesh? soo.. i dont think they do actually) i'll let u know how the quality is.
otherwise it's a pretty cool shop, nice layout... but yes, not a fan of some of their designs as of yet. hmm.
anyways that is all for now. must study. hbio test wed, stat test thurs. argh!
well i went shopping after. i was only meant to get my boots, but there was a get a second pair of shoes for 50% deal.... and i couldn't find anything so i wasn't going to bother getting a second pair, until i asked the lady if those shoes 'over there' were included. and surprisingly she said yes, i thought the whole brand of them were excluded from the sale, but it seemed it was only a certain collection of them.
ended up getting theseee...
and yes, they're not what i usually get, so it should require some getting use to.i already have a pair from this brand... these oness...
but that flower thing digs into my foot and it hurts =[anyways. the boots i got, i've had my eye on for a while, and was totally heartbroken when i found they had sold out at the mirrabooka store. then found a pair in harbor town, but with no size.. then found a pair at the city store in a size 9 and got uber excited =]
they're actually really high boots though, not high in the heel but high as in.. high up to the knee. i dont think i really noticed when i tried it on at the shop because of my jeanss sorta pushed it down.. but when i tried it again at home i'm like hmmmmm......
anyways, bought a new pair of stockings from myer since i ripped a hole in my other ones.
ohoh and i was walking through carillion when i saw a new shop!
it's called factorie.. and it's actually pretty cheap. i ended up getting some simple long sleeve shirts (which i've been looking for, for a while now)
but i was slightly disappointed when i asked the lady what stores it was affiliated with and she said cotton on. and yes, my experience with cotton on quality is meh.
but it didn't seem too bad, like the quality of the shirts i got. i think it's a more urban (or maybe even surfy/skatey) style shop and i'm hoping they don't make their clothes from the same materials/factory (but the shirt says made in Bangladesh? soo.. i dont think they do actually) i'll let u know how the quality is.
otherwise it's a pretty cool shop, nice layout... but yes, not a fan of some of their designs as of yet. hmm.
anyways that is all for now. must study. hbio test wed, stat test thurs. argh!
8:41 PM
Monday, September 14, 2009
♥ f i v e
the simplest actions can be so sweet.
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yesterday at church i learnt a few things (other from the sermon msg):
anyways i remember winning some devo material. and it was a year's worth. i got through the first book, but never really through the rest. each books abt 3 months worth, and i've got four altogether.
i like it. it's longer than the ones josh did with me... and its aimed for youth.
i remember doing YPs with huy's cell group. oh those days =) i miss them! YPs was pretty awesome too.
anyways. i've got about 3 of those SU books. and i really should read dreaming with God (sorryyy mic, i will finish it, one day!).. and i've still got a book called hearing from God, which i got for my bday from zin a while back. i did start it. just never got through it. which seems to be a common occurance for all my books (esp uni books!)
oh and just for general reading..... i still have handle with care AND sister's keeper to get through! lol :) i should really bring a book with me to read on the bus (but fb phone is usually what keeps me entertained)
which reminds me. i still want to see sisters keeper at the movies =[ but i might as well wait for the dvd to be out to rent. and ponyo is out!!! i just watched the trailer. same director as spirited away. okay its kiddish but w/e i still want to watch it =P
well i'm exhausted from my lack of sleep yesterday, so goodnight =)
P.S. for those who don't use facebook, check out this vid =) its funny. according to louis i use all of them x) but i sooo do not! wongfu ftw ^^
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yesterday at church i learnt a few things (other from the sermon msg):
- n sings really well and can hit really high for a guy hahaa. but i knew that already. i just got reminded of it when i sat nxt to him yest
- w & a do not know how to stay quiet during a sermon!
- j has a really good controlled voice now. i always percieved her as someone who was better at solos, but i really like how she sings in the worship team now
- t & l are SO CUTE together x) and i cannot wait until they get married on sat :) AND sitting on their right, made me think abt the vid from t's hens and i had to hold back from cracking up laughing (esp the sexy ankle bit... LOL)
- i has pretty messy handwriting x) but he read over my psyc report for me which was really nice of him, and his comments were pretty constructive :)
anyways i remember winning some devo material. and it was a year's worth. i got through the first book, but never really through the rest. each books abt 3 months worth, and i've got four altogether.
i like it. it's longer than the ones josh did with me... and its aimed for youth.
i remember doing YPs with huy's cell group. oh those days =) i miss them! YPs was pretty awesome too.
anyways. i've got about 3 of those SU books. and i really should read dreaming with God (sorryyy mic, i will finish it, one day!).. and i've still got a book called hearing from God, which i got for my bday from zin a while back. i did start it. just never got through it. which seems to be a common occurance for all my books (esp uni books!)
oh and just for general reading..... i still have handle with care AND sister's keeper to get through! lol :) i should really bring a book with me to read on the bus (but fb phone is usually what keeps me entertained)
which reminds me. i still want to see sisters keeper at the movies =[ but i might as well wait for the dvd to be out to rent. and ponyo is out!!! i just watched the trailer. same director as spirited away. okay its kiddish but w/e i still want to watch it =P
well i'm exhausted from my lack of sleep yesterday, so goodnight =)
P.S. for those who don't use facebook, check out this vid =) its funny. according to louis i use all of them x) but i sooo do not! wongfu ftw ^^
Labels: church, devotions, friends, God, movies, reading, SU, wongfuproductions, youtube
11:41 PM
