Wednesday, April 1, 2009
♥ a teenager's world
rules were made to be broken.
thats what the world says.
i know that its a lie though.
so i woke up this morning, remembering a book that uncle dennis lent to me like 4 years ago O__O.. he was passing it around the tbcers. chris started with it. and he wrote like a review / note in it. and then next was me. its just, i never got around to reading it ^^" and 4 yrs down the track, i still have it sitting in my room (doh~!)
so i found it today. it's called "life. sex. and everything inbetween". (yes.. the title is so off putting that probably why i never read it haha)
but i brought it around with me today and read bits here and there. yeah, josh pointed out its aimed for like 13yo... which is probably true, most of it is pretty straightforward.
dont' have sex blahblah, purity blahblah... it sorta comes in a structure where there's a teen writing to the writer, and the guy writes back.
some of it is really good though. there was stories on pregnancy, abortions, virginity etc... touchy stuff. but real issues for teens now a days. i like reading about people's issues. guess psyc is good for me haha.
but parts of it brought up good points to. relationship wise too. many of which i pointed out to josh, although we knew it all already, i guess its good to be like "look! we're on the right track" or "maybe we should work on this..."
i sorta realized how the world would throw stuff at us! for example. sex is okay! just use protection. one night stands are okay. getting drunk etc etc. it's crazy. what the world of teenagers are like. as i turn 18 in a month or so, i guess im glad that i'm no longer under all that highschool pressure and the world that exist.
but also i guess i was very grounded throughout highschool. i stood very firmly in my values, morals, beliefs.
but some people fall into the pressure... the world that exists. reading about it in the book, i guess its good because it made me realize there's always help available. and there's always answers.
one thing that really struct me, was the amount of teenagers who were scared of their parents. thinking they would kill them if they found out if they were pregnant. and how they wanted to go through an abortion without them knowing. i think one point the writer brought up was how hard it is. abortion that is. and how if u were the mother. u would want ur daughter to come to u. u wouldn't want ur daughter to go through that alone. u wouldn't even want ur daughter have to face that choice.
u know, i think i've come to the age, where i realize how vital my parents are in my life. i realized how silly i was to be so scared of them when i was younger (it was the expectation thing - i couldn't handle not meeting their expectations). i've realized how stupid it is to lie to them. to do things behind their back. i've gotten the point where i want to be honest with them - where i'm not afraid of telling them things. and i think they've gotten the point where they realize i'm mature enough to make decisions, and that they can trust me.
haha. i still remember when i first told my parents about a boyfriend. it was really hard. i had lied previously about another boy i had dated. i kept it from them. but i remember telling them about this boy. it actually wasn't too bad.
parents are protective. they have high expectations. but they also love you.
when i have a child, i want them to not be afraid of me. i want them to feel like they can come to me - about anything. that i am approachable. and that they can always talk to me, about anything... and i will still always love them.
i think parents use a scare tatic because it helps with growing up. sure, i wouldn't have done that well if i didn't have my parents pressuring me... or having a high expectation.
i guess it just got to the point where i couldn't reach it - and i brokedown. but thats a different story ;)
i hope i'm a good mother when i grow up.
thats what the world says.
i know that its a lie though.
so i woke up this morning, remembering a book that uncle dennis lent to me like 4 years ago O__O.. he was passing it around the tbcers. chris started with it. and he wrote like a review / note in it. and then next was me. its just, i never got around to reading it ^^" and 4 yrs down the track, i still have it sitting in my room (doh~!)
so i found it today. it's called "life. sex. and everything inbetween". (yes.. the title is so off putting that probably why i never read it haha)
but i brought it around with me today and read bits here and there. yeah, josh pointed out its aimed for like 13yo... which is probably true, most of it is pretty straightforward.
dont' have sex blahblah, purity blahblah... it sorta comes in a structure where there's a teen writing to the writer, and the guy writes back.
some of it is really good though. there was stories on pregnancy, abortions, virginity etc... touchy stuff. but real issues for teens now a days. i like reading about people's issues. guess psyc is good for me haha.
but parts of it brought up good points to. relationship wise too. many of which i pointed out to josh, although we knew it all already, i guess its good to be like "look! we're on the right track" or "maybe we should work on this..."
i sorta realized how the world would throw stuff at us! for example. sex is okay! just use protection. one night stands are okay. getting drunk etc etc. it's crazy. what the world of teenagers are like. as i turn 18 in a month or so, i guess im glad that i'm no longer under all that highschool pressure and the world that exist.
but also i guess i was very grounded throughout highschool. i stood very firmly in my values, morals, beliefs.
but some people fall into the pressure... the world that exists. reading about it in the book, i guess its good because it made me realize there's always help available. and there's always answers.
one thing that really struct me, was the amount of teenagers who were scared of their parents. thinking they would kill them if they found out if they were pregnant. and how they wanted to go through an abortion without them knowing. i think one point the writer brought up was how hard it is. abortion that is. and how if u were the mother. u would want ur daughter to come to u. u wouldn't want ur daughter to go through that alone. u wouldn't even want ur daughter have to face that choice.
u know, i think i've come to the age, where i realize how vital my parents are in my life. i realized how silly i was to be so scared of them when i was younger (it was the expectation thing - i couldn't handle not meeting their expectations). i've realized how stupid it is to lie to them. to do things behind their back. i've gotten the point where i want to be honest with them - where i'm not afraid of telling them things. and i think they've gotten the point where they realize i'm mature enough to make decisions, and that they can trust me.
haha. i still remember when i first told my parents about a boyfriend. it was really hard. i had lied previously about another boy i had dated. i kept it from them. but i remember telling them about this boy. it actually wasn't too bad.
parents are protective. they have high expectations. but they also love you.
when i have a child, i want them to not be afraid of me. i want them to feel like they can come to me - about anything. that i am approachable. and that they can always talk to me, about anything... and i will still always love them.
i think parents use a scare tatic because it helps with growing up. sure, i wouldn't have done that well if i didn't have my parents pressuring me... or having a high expectation.
i guess it just got to the point where i couldn't reach it - and i brokedown. but thats a different story ;)
i hope i'm a good mother when i grow up.
Labels: abortion, boyfriend, family, love, parents, relationships, sex
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