Sunday, August 16, 2009
♥ a mate indeed
josh talks about his friends a lot. he tells me how he wishes they were siblings, rather than just friends.
it amazes me sometimes, the close-ness and bond he has with his friends.
it kinda makes me think of my friendships a bit.
anyways today i want to talk about my best mate. i was going to blog about him fri night, but got home too late.
he's really an amazing guy. but we weren't always such good friends.
it started way back in year 2/3, when we were in the same class, i was yr 2, he was yr 3. i had this crush on him back in like year 5 or 6 i think. we didn't talk for two years, once he went to high school, and even the first year i went into high school. we dated when i hit year 9, gosh i still remember that first day we were walking next to each other and his friends ran past and put our hands together. how awkward! ahaha, anyways, it turned out to be quite a disaster, we lasted from the 28 aug (tanya'sbday) to the 6th nov (josh yen's bday). and after that we didn't talk for years.
so it wasn't til upper school, that we actually started talking again. it began really slow. just general chat. it took us a while to get over our iffyness with out past together, it was especially hard, when people would talk about us, like we couldn't just be friends.
we finally broke through it all, and became good (if not better) mates by the time i was in yr 11. two years it took. and many mistakes in between. i kinda felt bad sometimes, because he took quite a bit of crap from his friends.
most of the guys i was with over my high school years were slightly edgey about him. they knew how much he meant to me and how close i was to him. i guess they were scared that i would fall for him again, but by then i had already realized, that we would never work as a couple, that he wasn't what i wanted and that our friendship was so important to me.
i took him to my year 12 ball - as friends, of course. i've been shopping with him countless times. we've gone to eat at the c restaurant. we've gone to parks to play tictactoe. we've gone for bubble tea countless times. we've had sago fights. we've gone for dinner countless times. we collect baby shoes, and he gets the left and i get the right shoe (weird, i know...). my parents buy him gifts when they go overseas. he's been to my dad's workplace christmas function. he looks after my house when we're all away. he lets me drive his car xD.
yeah we've done lots of things. but it's not just the things we do. but it's one of those low maintenance friendships. he'll be on holiday, or i'll be on holiday, and we won't talk to see each other for months. but as soon as we see each other again, it's back to how it always is. i think those kinda friendships come with having known each other for such a long time.
anyways the other night, i was kinda stranded in nb, after not being able to get into justworship at metrochurch. it's a long story, but basically my sister was inside, and i wasn't.
my first person to call? him. and yup he came and saved me, haha. we ended up dropping by burswood, and then eating after in nb.
but like that day made me realize a few things about our friendship. and added are a few other things i've picked up over the years.
1. i can always call him when i need something. and he'll always help me out. (e.g. friday) unless he's like trashed or something and can't drive.
2. i tell him a lot of things, that many other people don't know. and i know i can trust him with that. that he wont tell anyone and that he doesn't judge me either.
3. he rarely gets to the point. really, on days that i message him telling him that i need to talk to him, we basically go out all night to eat or timezone or something, and in the last half an hour he'd be like "so what did u want to talk about". but none the less, friday surprised me. when just before we reached my house, he threw a question at me, that i could not answer while looking at him.
4. haha he was the first person i told when i started dating josh. and i think he was the first i told when i broke up with ken. actually he's usually the first person i tell about most things.
5. sometimes his advice sucks. but it's good to know he listens and is honest with me. and i know that he is worried or concerned about certain things.
7. he drives me everywhere. well, most places. he will always pick me up if i need to be, and he never complains, well to me at least xD. i'll make it up to him, when i get my licence, but i have a feeling he won't like sitting in the car where i'm driving anyways.
8. he dresses well. i think he knows me so well, he'd be able to differentiate between something i would wear and something i wouldn't. i think its because we use to go shopping together so often.
9. he's such a kid sometimes. he likes his toys. esp new toys. he's the kinda guy who would spend more, on exactly the same product, except one looks better than the other... (e.g. this usb he bought once, it costed so much more, but looked cooler... -.-")
10. he's been such a big part of my life, and still is... and i don't really know who could take his place.
and when u have mates like that, how can you not feel blessed?
it amazes me sometimes, the close-ness and bond he has with his friends.
it kinda makes me think of my friendships a bit.
anyways today i want to talk about my best mate. i was going to blog about him fri night, but got home too late.
he's really an amazing guy. but we weren't always such good friends.it started way back in year 2/3, when we were in the same class, i was yr 2, he was yr 3. i had this crush on him back in like year 5 or 6 i think. we didn't talk for two years, once he went to high school, and even the first year i went into high school. we dated when i hit year 9, gosh i still remember that first day we were walking next to each other and his friends ran past and put our hands together. how awkward! ahaha, anyways, it turned out to be quite a disaster, we lasted from the 28 aug (tanya'sbday) to the 6th nov (josh yen's bday). and after that we didn't talk for years.
so it wasn't til upper school, that we actually started talking again. it began really slow. just general chat. it took us a while to get over our iffyness with out past together, it was especially hard, when people would talk about us, like we couldn't just be friends.
we finally broke through it all, and became good (if not better) mates by the time i was in yr 11. two years it took. and many mistakes in between. i kinda felt bad sometimes, because he took quite a bit of crap from his friends.
most of the guys i was with over my high school years were slightly edgey about him. they knew how much he meant to me and how close i was to him. i guess they were scared that i would fall for him again, but by then i had already realized, that we would never work as a couple, that he wasn't what i wanted and that our friendship was so important to me.
i took him to my year 12 ball - as friends, of course. i've been shopping with him countless times. we've gone to eat at the c restaurant. we've gone to parks to play tictactoe. we've gone for bubble tea countless times. we've had sago fights. we've gone for dinner countless times. we collect baby shoes, and he gets the left and i get the right shoe (weird, i know...). my parents buy him gifts when they go overseas. he's been to my dad's workplace christmas function. he looks after my house when we're all away. he lets me drive his car xD.yeah we've done lots of things. but it's not just the things we do. but it's one of those low maintenance friendships. he'll be on holiday, or i'll be on holiday, and we won't talk to see each other for months. but as soon as we see each other again, it's back to how it always is. i think those kinda friendships come with having known each other for such a long time.
anyways the other night, i was kinda stranded in nb, after not being able to get into justworship at metrochurch. it's a long story, but basically my sister was inside, and i wasn't.
my first person to call? him. and yup he came and saved me, haha. we ended up dropping by burswood, and then eating after in nb.
but like that day made me realize a few things about our friendship. and added are a few other things i've picked up over the years.
1. i can always call him when i need something. and he'll always help me out. (e.g. friday) unless he's like trashed or something and can't drive.
2. i tell him a lot of things, that many other people don't know. and i know i can trust him with that. that he wont tell anyone and that he doesn't judge me either.
3. he rarely gets to the point. really, on days that i message him telling him that i need to talk to him, we basically go out all night to eat or timezone or something, and in the last half an hour he'd be like "so what did u want to talk about". but none the less, friday surprised me. when just before we reached my house, he threw a question at me, that i could not answer while looking at him.
4. haha he was the first person i told when i started dating josh. and i think he was the first i told when i broke up with ken. actually he's usually the first person i tell about most things.
5. sometimes his advice sucks. but it's good to know he listens and is honest with me. and i know that he is worried or concerned about certain things.
7. he drives me everywhere. well, most places. he will always pick me up if i need to be, and he never complains, well to me at least xD. i'll make it up to him, when i get my licence, but i have a feeling he won't like sitting in the car where i'm driving anyways.
8. he dresses well. i think he knows me so well, he'd be able to differentiate between something i would wear and something i wouldn't. i think its because we use to go shopping together so often.
9. he's such a kid sometimes. he likes his toys. esp new toys. he's the kinda guy who would spend more, on exactly the same product, except one looks better than the other... (e.g. this usb he bought once, it costed so much more, but looked cooler... -.-")
10. he's been such a big part of my life, and still is... and i don't really know who could take his place.
and when u have mates like that, how can you not feel blessed?
Labels: exbf/exgf, friends, high school, relationships
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