Sunday, March 18, 2012
♥ The Chord
On the phone with josh last night, i struck a chord.
Josh has this way of getting on people's nerves because he always just gives them his opinion on things. Or he just questions everything - why people are doing things, why they believe that, why you like this... etc. And a lot of the time, his questions don't really come across as neutral, it's like he semi disagrees or disapproves of what you do/think/believe and that is why he questions.
I love him, i really do - he is very honest, sometimes very brutally honest. But he's learning. He's learning to just listen, when I need him to, and not be so.. insensitive.
But back to this whole opinion/questioning thing - whenever he does that to me, i get quite annoyed - or shall i say.. sick of it.. and my answer is always "i don't know?"...... and this annoys him, because he doesn't like that I don't know why I do something or why I believe this or why I like this... and he will keep on questioning me to the point where I'm just like BLAH ~ "just because it is!" or "just because i like to!"
Anyways this 99.9% of the time ends up with me being annoyed at him and not wanting to talk to him because I get sick of his questions. But last night, in slight frustration, I stated what I thought was the obvious - which was, sometimes people don't want to know your opinion, or they don't want you to question their motives because it can come across as you're looking down at them. to which he replied "... BINGO! No one has ever told me that!" (.. yes he's a bit weird, and I was a bit taken back)
Because the truth is, when you aren't close to someone, you are less likely to criticize or question them - because you don't really know them. But when you are good friends with someone, you feel more comfortable with them, and this can sometimes result in being more opinionated (because you're not scared of offending them - but are still likely to do so).
I think speaking truth is a good thing. And so can be questioning as it makes the other person think about things they may not necessarily have thought about by themselves - but it's a lot to do with the way you question someone. It can very often be misinterpreted.
You know, in hindsight, Josh speaks a lot of truth into my life, and I never realize it at the time, but he asks those questions that need to be asked but no one asks. I guess it's just the way he goes about things that can really get to me sometimes!
Maybe I can try to be a better girlfriend, by helping him be better - telling him how he can be better, instead of just getting annoyed at him every time he's blunt, annoying or frustrating, haha.
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currently wearing
recently bought
currently on the to-buy-list
as i turn 21 this year, i've decided to get some proper make up and actual learn to make myself look half decent for those times that actually require make up
/random rant
why doesn't echo work with the new ipad?! why is echo so lame in general?! why won't it just let me download my lectures directly! without having to use random tricks.
this is totally a sign that I should just get android... sigh, i hope they bring out some awesome tablets soon.
Josh has this way of getting on people's nerves because he always just gives them his opinion on things. Or he just questions everything - why people are doing things, why they believe that, why you like this... etc. And a lot of the time, his questions don't really come across as neutral, it's like he semi disagrees or disapproves of what you do/think/believe and that is why he questions.
I love him, i really do - he is very honest, sometimes very brutally honest. But he's learning. He's learning to just listen, when I need him to, and not be so.. insensitive.
But back to this whole opinion/questioning thing - whenever he does that to me, i get quite annoyed - or shall i say.. sick of it.. and my answer is always "i don't know?"...... and this annoys him, because he doesn't like that I don't know why I do something or why I believe this or why I like this... and he will keep on questioning me to the point where I'm just like BLAH ~ "just because it is!" or "just because i like to!"
Anyways this 99.9% of the time ends up with me being annoyed at him and not wanting to talk to him because I get sick of his questions. But last night, in slight frustration, I stated what I thought was the obvious - which was, sometimes people don't want to know your opinion, or they don't want you to question their motives because it can come across as you're looking down at them. to which he replied "... BINGO! No one has ever told me that!" (.. yes he's a bit weird, and I was a bit taken back)
Because the truth is, when you aren't close to someone, you are less likely to criticize or question them - because you don't really know them. But when you are good friends with someone, you feel more comfortable with them, and this can sometimes result in being more opinionated (because you're not scared of offending them - but are still likely to do so).
I think speaking truth is a good thing. And so can be questioning as it makes the other person think about things they may not necessarily have thought about by themselves - but it's a lot to do with the way you question someone. It can very often be misinterpreted.
You know, in hindsight, Josh speaks a lot of truth into my life, and I never realize it at the time, but he asks those questions that need to be asked but no one asks. I guess it's just the way he goes about things that can really get to me sometimes!
Maybe I can try to be a better girlfriend, by helping him be better - telling him how he can be better, instead of just getting annoyed at him every time he's blunt, annoying or frustrating, haha.
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currently wearing
recently bought
currently on the to-buy-list
/random rant
why doesn't echo work with the new ipad?! why is echo so lame in general?! why won't it just let me download my lectures directly! without having to use random tricks.
this is totally a sign that I should just get android... sigh, i hope they bring out some awesome tablets soon.
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